Even in so-called Christian communities, when two people get married, it is expected that they should not have kids very soon after getting married, and if they do have kids, they shouldn’t have very many. For some reason it is viewed more favorably to adopt kids than to have them yourselves. The reasoning for this last option sounds very much like Ebenezer Scrooge who talks about decreasing the “surplus population.” Instead of decreasing the population, just don’t add to it. Adopt kids, instead of having your own.
The best thing (in the modern world) is to get married (or not) and prevent kids from happening because of your behavior.
Do your kid-reproducing-thing, but not so that you can have a children. Use the pill, get an abortion if the pill didn’t work for some reason. It’s all about getting “fulfillment” whatever that means.
Of course, if you were trying to have children, then…I…guess…thats a good thing!….? I’ll be happy for you…secretly wondering why you would want a kid.
As Christians, we should find fulfillment in Christ, not in human relationships. We should use our human relationship with our spouse to obey God’s command to “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth….”
I understand that there are couples that are not able to have children. I am not saying that they are in that case disobeying God.